From time to time people wear masks. This caused by a psychological reason that reveals the nature of human's complexes. Both men and women have them. The main basis of the complexes is dissatisfaction. Dissatisfaction with a position in society, appearance, also, it can de due to a person's law confidence and self-esteem. So, they hide all this by wearing the masks and playing different roles. But there are cases when people are trying SO HARD to present themselves as greater ones and they go too far that it's getting lusciously, the first thought that can occure to a normal person looking at this picture is: "Oh, my God, what a kindergarten..." I don't wanna judge those people and poke my finger at them, no...we are all sinful.
Nevertheless, masks can bring a positive connotation. It concernes the mask called "I'm fine". If some of my acquaintances asks me how am I doing, I'll answer that everything's okey 'cause I treat the person who I communicate with not as a psychoanalyst to who I can tell about all my miseries and disasters, but as a person who I love, appreciate and support, thus, I don't let my bad emotions prevail over me, I'm not used to load people with my problems - almost any neagative is a matter of time, that is why I always make them feel happy. Every person should find,let even small, joy in everything that surrounds him/her - only in that way we can reach the harmony with yourself and world.
So, there can be the one conclusion: "People, be natural in your displays, don't be afraid of being yourself as you are, appreciate what destiny gave you and have sunny outlook!" =)
среда, 13 мая 2009 г.
среда, 6 мая 2009 г.
06.05.09 Sacred Writng
Feminism as a state of mind.
Well, I think that everybody is familiar with this term, especially women. Nowadays, often and often we are coming accross with the idea of women domination. What was usually done by men is now done by women. Woman master technical professions, ride a car, run a business, become a president. Female became stronger, they put,seemingly, impossible tasks on their shoulders: they work hard night and day at the same time managing to bring up the children, run about the house and look wonderful. "...will stop the running horse, come into the burning house", they say..May be, it sounds too pathosly, but that's it. A real woman must be able to do everything, not to wait for somebody's help, especially from men.
Some people say: "Well, if a woman considers her to be a feminist that means that she has the mass of the complexes and hides them behind the screen of the term "feminism" ". Personally I, disagree with this position 'cause it can be explained from a phsychological point of view: a woman had unpleasant experiences in her life that strongly affected her mind, for example, she was sexually abused or she was brought in a family without a father or he was an alcoholic and it's natural that she could soak up all the negative connected with a man.
As for my life experience, I can tell that my mother has always taught me that I should be independent from others including men. I must earn my living myself, build my career and support my future children. I can't say that I feel sceptical about men, I don't take pokes at them. And I don't state that I don't need a man at all, but, I'm a sort of a person who appreciates the freedom: I do what I want to do, I'm not used to be owed something to somebody, I'm not going to waste my emotions on the men who don't deserve it. I persuaded in it on my own experience. I don't wanna step on the same rakes and devote myself to a man.
But noone knows what will happen in the future - the time will dot its "i's"...
Well, I think that everybody is familiar with this term, especially women. Nowadays, often and often we are coming accross with the idea of women domination. What was usually done by men is now done by women. Woman master technical professions, ride a car, run a business, become a president. Female became stronger, they put,seemingly, impossible tasks on their shoulders: they work hard night and day at the same time managing to bring up the children, run about the house and look wonderful. "...will stop the running horse, come into the burning house", they say..May be, it sounds too pathosly, but that's it. A real woman must be able to do everything, not to wait for somebody's help, especially from men.
Some people say: "Well, if a woman considers her to be a feminist that means that she has the mass of the complexes and hides them behind the screen of the term "feminism" ". Personally I, disagree with this position 'cause it can be explained from a phsychological point of view: a woman had unpleasant experiences in her life that strongly affected her mind, for example, she was sexually abused or she was brought in a family without a father or he was an alcoholic and it's natural that she could soak up all the negative connected with a man.
As for my life experience, I can tell that my mother has always taught me that I should be independent from others including men. I must earn my living myself, build my career and support my future children. I can't say that I feel sceptical about men, I don't take pokes at them. And I don't state that I don't need a man at all, but, I'm a sort of a person who appreciates the freedom: I do what I want to do, I'm not used to be owed something to somebody, I'm not going to waste my emotions on the men who don't deserve it. I persuaded in it on my own experience. I don't wanna step on the same rakes and devote myself to a man.
But noone knows what will happen in the future - the time will dot its "i's"...
среда, 22 апреля 2009 г.
22.04.09 Sacred Writing "The aim justifies the means"
I think that's impossible to live without any aim. We should constantly head for something during our lifeperiod, pass through different obstacles otherwise our exsisting is useless and uninteresting, not full of exciting and exhilarating things. We should give our all to reach the goals.
For example we may take a study on the paid basis: you're studying, spending much time for learning all the material, paying for education then graduate from the establishment being a specialist, having a status and the other opportunities in life.
Or another example, you have a garden, work there raising different kinds of fruits, vegetables, meanwhile you may have a rest with your friends chatting in the warm atmosphere and enjoing the weather, fresh air and nature. And in the end of the gardening season you have tinned salads, jam, juice and compotes made by yourself, you won't need to go to the shop for buing it. So, in these cases we see that the aim justifies the means spent on it.
One shouldn't be afraid of difficulties and treat it like the things that make us stronger and hardened.
For example we may take a study on the paid basis: you're studying, spending much time for learning all the material, paying for education then graduate from the establishment being a specialist, having a status and the other opportunities in life.
Or another example, you have a garden, work there raising different kinds of fruits, vegetables, meanwhile you may have a rest with your friends chatting in the warm atmosphere and enjoing the weather, fresh air and nature. And in the end of the gardening season you have tinned salads, jam, juice and compotes made by yourself, you won't need to go to the shop for buing it. So, in these cases we see that the aim justifies the means spent on it.
One shouldn't be afraid of difficulties and treat it like the things that make us stronger and hardened.
вторник, 7 апреля 2009 г.
If you are to set up your own business what kind of business it will be and why?
If life gave me such a brilliant opportunity, I would set up a center of psychological help.
I think that in our intense times it's so necessary to feel somebody's support, to feel that somebody understands you as any other.
There would be two departments: a call center for urgent cases and private one that would deal with family and individual problems.The prices for service would be reasonable and available for everyone. There would be a warm and greeting atmosphere, friendly and skilled stuff. Besides,there will be a child's room for children waiting their parents equiped with a home theatre and toys.Every person will be met with joy and willing to help.
I would like to see this world bright, want to see peoples' merry faces with a shining smiles - faces of those people whose problems were successfuly solved and now they are living happily! :)
I think that in our intense times it's so necessary to feel somebody's support, to feel that somebody understands you as any other.
There would be two departments: a call center for urgent cases and private one that would deal with family and individual problems.The prices for service would be reasonable and available for everyone. There would be a warm and greeting atmosphere, friendly and skilled stuff. Besides,there will be a child's room for children waiting their parents equiped with a home theatre and toys.Every person will be met with joy and willing to help.
I would like to see this world bright, want to see peoples' merry faces with a shining smiles - faces of those people whose problems were successfuly solved and now they are living happily! :)
среда, 1 апреля 2009 г.
Internet aquaintance.Do's&Dont's
In todays world we have a wonderful invetion that ease our life, it's the Internet. It helps us in study to find some material, we can order smth, also make aquaintances not going out of home.
The reasons of turning to communicating can be different: one people want just to make friends with someone,other to find their love.
The reasons of turning to communicating can be different: one people want just to make friends with someone,other to find their love.
вторник, 24 марта 2009 г.
"Is platonic love the same kind of relationships and feelings as friendship?"
The term "platonic love" has existed from the very early times: during the lives of Plato and Socrat it was used to denote "chaste but erotic pedagogic friendships with youths", in the fifteenth century people understood it as "a love focused on the beauty of a person’s character and intelligence rather than on their physical charms". And what about the 21 st century? What does it mean now? And does it exist nowadays?
Today this tirm can be defined as an affectonate and spiritual love between persons of two opposite sexes. Some people consider platonic love not to be tied in with our real life, that these are two incompatible things.Other people think that platonic love does exists on the basis of the fact that a woman is not ready to start sexual relationships with a man.
As for my point of view, I think that platonic love can be levelled to a friendship 'cause one doesn't have any sexual contact, just spiritual merging. But sometimes this form of relationships may develop into a perfect feeling. So, noone can predict when you are stroked with a true,sincere love that may suddenly sneak up to you... =)
Today this tirm can be defined as an affectonate and spiritual love between persons of two opposite sexes. Some people consider platonic love not to be tied in with our real life, that these are two incompatible things.Other people think that platonic love does exists on the basis of the fact that a woman is not ready to start sexual relationships with a man.
As for my point of view, I think that platonic love can be levelled to a friendship 'cause one doesn't have any sexual contact, just spiritual merging. But sometimes this form of relationships may develop into a perfect feeling. So, noone can predict when you are stroked with a true,sincere love that may suddenly sneak up to you... =)
среда, 18 марта 2009 г.
18.03.09 Sacred Writing
Is sex sex for the sake of sex without any relation commitment possible?
Nowadays, people are headed for easy relationships, the overwhelming majority of people are intented to its simplification. Many of them forgot what do the words "care" and "tenderness" mean and it became a normal thing. The word "sex" got its liberty: we can watch a range of TV-programmes or read a lot of various articles written on this topic, everybody openly discuss it. On the one hand, it's good: you have an access to all the information you need, but if we look at this from the other side, we see that the part of human nature lost its right on privacy,it's naked. And so,coming up to the posed question I can give the answer:"Of course,naturally there's a sex without any relation commitment, and I don't judge those people who do it,but,personally I, wouldn't have a sexual contact with a man who I don't love".
Nowadays, people are headed for easy relationships, the overwhelming majority of people are intented to its simplification. Many of them forgot what do the words "care" and "tenderness" mean and it became a normal thing. The word "sex" got its liberty: we can watch a range of TV-programmes or read a lot of various articles written on this topic, everybody openly discuss it. On the one hand, it's good: you have an access to all the information you need, but if we look at this from the other side, we see that the part of human nature lost its right on privacy,it's naked. And so,coming up to the posed question I can give the answer:"Of course,naturally there's a sex without any relation commitment, and I don't judge those people who do it,but,personally I, wouldn't have a sexual contact with a man who I don't love".
среда, 11 марта 2009 г.
Why does Emma regretted about her wedding? Have you ever regretted of anything you have done?
Emma regretted 'cause she was in two minds about her step, she didn't know whether she acted in a right way, may be she was in a hurry and could find a better man. She was afraid of being unhappy in the marriage, not share love with her husband. She might have frightened that her life wasn't so interesting, full of freedom. It's difficult to judge her action.
Pshychologyst are saying unanimously one thing: "Never regret about what you've done" . I'm a kind of person who plans his actions and sees the result of them. But,anyway, sometimes I regret that this or that thing I could do in a right way... That is our life, it consists of trials and mistakes.
Emma regretted 'cause she was in two minds about her step, she didn't know whether she acted in a right way, may be she was in a hurry and could find a better man. She was afraid of being unhappy in the marriage, not share love with her husband. She might have frightened that her life wasn't so interesting, full of freedom. It's difficult to judge her action.
Pshychologyst are saying unanimously one thing: "Never regret about what you've done" . I'm a kind of person who plans his actions and sees the result of them. But,anyway, sometimes I regret that this or that thing I could do in a right way... That is our life, it consists of trials and mistakes.
вторник, 10 марта 2009 г.
“The book that has taught me a lot”
Everybody will start telling about the book, but let me, please, tell you about the story that affected and touched my mind. It’s called “Matrenin dvor” written by Solgenicin .
The main character of the story is a simple, old and single lady Matrena Vasiljevna. Her life has never been easy, so many sufferings fell to her lot – limping cat and dirty-white goat. She had to steal peat from the bog to heat her house (there wasn’t allowed to sell peat to local habitants of the village) ; it wasn’t so easy to drag those heavy sacks each day. Overmore, all the six children died not having lived till the age of three months, her husband didn’t return from the war and because of it, all the habitants considered her to be cursed. But this woman finds the strength to grin and bear it, staying kind, responsive and merciful. She gives her all to her relatives and other people, not leaving the time for herself, for housekeeping. Everybody turns to her for help and she doesn’t refuse to give it, she dedicated herself unselfishly to people not demanding anything in exchange even gratitude. She brings up and cares of Kira (the daughter of her ex-lover’s brother Faddey). She decided to give her a house. Matrena’s relatives were in a hurry to share her house and the result of the greedy and selfishness was the death of the main character. Her neighbours judge her instead of understanding.
Such kind of people as Matrena are still living among us working kindness and wonders, finding their happiness and predestination in devotion.
The main character of the story is a simple, old and single lady Matrena Vasiljevna. Her life has never been easy, so many sufferings fell to her lot – limping cat and dirty-white goat. She had to steal peat from the bog to heat her house (there wasn’t allowed to sell peat to local habitants of the village) ; it wasn’t so easy to drag those heavy sacks each day. Overmore, all the six children died not having lived till the age of three months, her husband didn’t return from the war and because of it, all the habitants considered her to be cursed. But this woman finds the strength to grin and bear it, staying kind, responsive and merciful. She gives her all to her relatives and other people, not leaving the time for herself, for housekeeping. Everybody turns to her for help and she doesn’t refuse to give it, she dedicated herself unselfishly to people not demanding anything in exchange even gratitude. She brings up and cares of Kira (the daughter of her ex-lover’s brother Faddey). She decided to give her a house. Matrena’s relatives were in a hurry to share her house and the result of the greedy and selfishness was the death of the main character. Her neighbours judge her instead of understanding.
Such kind of people as Matrena are still living among us working kindness and wonders, finding their happiness and predestination in devotion.
Afternoon Pages 04.03.09
What does parental care mean for you? Are there any words you desire to tell them, but you're not able to tell them?
Parents are the most important and precious people in the life of each person. We can’t imagine our life without those people who gave us a birth, who has cared and coddled us from the very beginning of our life and who gave their all to make us PEOPLE. But, unfortunately, many of children don’t want to estimate this contribution even being mature. And sometimes, they reproach their parents for minor things, jeer at them not thinking about the fact that somewhere in the streets there are many left homeless children, some in children's home waiting for their new parents, for that lacking care…
Speaking about me, yeah…I’m not an angel - sometimes I behave in incorrect way and then regret about it. Anyway, I’m growing older, I have my own opinion that is a bit different from theirs, but it’s MINE. From time to time, there quarrels appear betwen us 'cause of this reason: I prove my truth, they – theirs… There are situations when I’m right and those when life persuades me that my parents were right, they’re not mistaken in this or that question, but it’s too late…All went wrong without my stubbornness, without my unwillingness to understand that they LOVE and CARE about me – I’m not a person from outside for them, and it’s a natural thing that they’re worrying about me. Just at this sad moment I realize what does parental care means for me. It’s something irreplaceable that’ll always be with me, giving joy and warmth, that won’t betray my trust. This is the thing that means MUCH to me and I will not for the world sell it.
Rounding up my composition, I want to turn to my parents and tell them: “My dearest, I love you strongly and deeply, I’m grateful that you gave me a birth, that you put your heart, soul and money into my bringing up, development, I appreciate your support very much. Please, forgive your mischievous and disobedient child for all the pranks, I didn’t mean to hurt you, really…”
Parents are the most important and precious people in the life of each person. We can’t imagine our life without those people who gave us a birth, who has cared and coddled us from the very beginning of our life and who gave their all to make us PEOPLE. But, unfortunately, many of children don’t want to estimate this contribution even being mature. And sometimes, they reproach their parents for minor things, jeer at them not thinking about the fact that somewhere in the streets there are many left homeless children, some in children's home waiting for their new parents, for that lacking care…
Speaking about me, yeah…I’m not an angel - sometimes I behave in incorrect way and then regret about it. Anyway, I’m growing older, I have my own opinion that is a bit different from theirs, but it’s MINE. From time to time, there quarrels appear betwen us 'cause of this reason: I prove my truth, they – theirs… There are situations when I’m right and those when life persuades me that my parents were right, they’re not mistaken in this or that question, but it’s too late…All went wrong without my stubbornness, without my unwillingness to understand that they LOVE and CARE about me – I’m not a person from outside for them, and it’s a natural thing that they’re worrying about me. Just at this sad moment I realize what does parental care means for me. It’s something irreplaceable that’ll always be with me, giving joy and warmth, that won’t betray my trust. This is the thing that means MUCH to me and I will not for the world sell it.
Rounding up my composition, I want to turn to my parents and tell them: “My dearest, I love you strongly and deeply, I’m grateful that you gave me a birth, that you put your heart, soul and money into my bringing up, development, I appreciate your support very much. Please, forgive your mischievous and disobedient child for all the pranks, I didn’t mean to hurt you, really…”
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